Find Self Compasssion in Self Talk

There was a woman who came to me one time long ago on her physical therapist's recommendation. The woman had a lot of unresolved pain in her hip that seemed to have no traditional source.

The client did not want to do Somatic psychotherapy.

What she wanted was to see the P.T. who sent her to me, and I was more of an obligation than a solution.

Because the client had not bought into the fact that her body stored any memories or nervous system pathways, she mainly shared her story.

Feeling utterly hopeless about being able to help her, I showed her out the door.

As she left, I asked her to listen to how she talked about herself and be more kind in her language. I gave a few examples that she had used and suggested new descriptive words.

Her eyes filled up with tears, and she gave me a huge hug. I don't think I helped her hip, but she did let me know that she understood what had just transpired.

What adjectives do you use when you are describing yourself?

Is there language such as clumsy, forgetful, silly, fat, overwhelmed, dumb to describe your actions, thoughts, or person?

Sometimes we do this as a way to be funny, break the ice, or subconsciously are looking for someone to disagree with us and pet our ego.

Take some time today and become an objective observer in one conversation.

Listen to yourself, talk, and see what adjectives you choose.

How we describe ourselves to others says a lot about how we feel towards ourselves.

How we feel towards ourselves reflects itself in all our relationships.

The goal is self-compassion and acceptance of worth.

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