The Lost Art of Connection
Other than my business page, I try to avoid FB at all costs. FB is a very unauthentic way to be seen, but in our busy lives, it is convenient.
We have traded genuine interaction with quick posts.
I grew up in an era where you had actually to call someone to connect with them. Calling took time, and until cordless phones, you had to stay in the general area of the phone the entire call. In a phone call, you can detect how someone is doing by their tone; laughter is shared and felt, hearing the voice of someone we care about reacts in our brain as a cathartic experience.
Now we see the activities people are engaged in, what they are eating, and unless they become vulnerable, we do not know what is happening other than what they want to show us.
We live thousands of miles away from family in most cases and spreading ourselves so thin that real connection is a lost art.
Put down FB, sit and think who do you want in your life and start a small plan to connect regularly.
Decide the people in your tribe that support you the most and make time for them. Talk on the phone, especially if they are far away, send a quick note, schedule a lunch, invite them over for dinner.
I text or call certain people every week or every two weeks and let them know I am thinking of them and how I feel about them. I do not keep score or waste energy on who is reaching out first and most often.
I go out to lunch, call, cook dinner for, or meet for a walk all the people I love once a month or once every two months.
“It is not easy to fit this in always, but my reward is being seen and cared for in the unique way each person brings to me every single time. ”
Decide that you are worth knowing.
Choose people who are capable of being there for you and seeing you in all your brokenness.
Take a step today to create a real connection and have that be a part of how you move forward.
Reach out to me and let me know what steps you are taking to connect. I want to hear from you.
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