Belief: Everyone I Love will Leave

Client: I broke my leg in the second grade and had to be in a wheelchair.

Before that moment, I was the fastest kid at recess and had many friends.

I was ostracized from my regular group and became best friends with a girl with cerebral palsy. We did everything together. We played after school, went to the movies, and ate lunch, always in the same spot.

She died that school year, and I remember telling myself that if you love someone, they will leave you.

I am in my forties, and until this moment in therapy with you, I did not realize how much that one death and the belief from that death has affected my life and intimate relationships.

First session. Awareness gained.

This is how belief systems form from an event that happened long ago.

An event occurs and is not understood, the child does not receive the support needed to process this loss, and the imprint is made.

This is trauma living and being stored in your nervous systems. I only saw this client one more time because he had uncovered one of his most significant issues in the first session.

Subsequent sessions would have made him aware of all the lies he tells himself, but this was enough for him, which is also important.

Somatic work is a wonderful modality for gaining quick awareness, recognizing deep wounds safely, and understanding what you have been telling yourself without knowing.

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