Think About First Impressions

I have met a lot of new people lately in group settings. One woman opened a group speech with a surgery she had several months ago. The leader's surgery has nothing to do with the topic we were there to learn.

What makes us give away more information than necessary to total strangers?

In this case, the person has just explained to us a trauma they are still figuring out.

The surgery was a big deal to this woman as it might be for any of us, but months later, she needed other people's reactions to help calm her nervous system even more. This is fine and people do it all the time as a way to appear vulnerable or just because they want the extra concern.

The motivation to share is different every time we meet new people.

Some people talk about traumas or illness others' money, and still, others need to be defined by their spouses.

Whatever we come up with as a way to get our story out to others is curious.

Take some time in the next few days, and when you meet new people, see what you say next.

Don't judge yourself, but be curious.

It is interesting information to have about ourselves and might lead to some awareness of where our mind stays occupied.

See if you need more humility, are you trying to make others feel less superior? Are you attempting to connect?

What is it you want others to know about you.

You may not think that how you introduce yourself is essential to know, but it is your first impression.

If you want to find out ways to be more mindful and intentional in the way you meet people, give me a call.

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