Divorce Realities

I often have clients come to me when they are thinking about a divorce or have separated.

The stress of having children, a partner with a military career, or repatterning your marriage after the dysfunctional household you grew up in are the main cases I see for seeking divorce.

Every single person who has talked to me about divorce feels empowered for a short period. Leaving a marriage is often intoxicating and terrifying at the same time.

The hard work starts when you retain a lawyer, fill out fifty pages of financial assets, look at the life you built, and take it down brick by brick.

When a divorce becomes a reality, my clients are usually unprepared for how hard it is.

“Everything about your life will change. ”

Old wounds from the marriage and before will be bumped up against through the entire process.

Your brain will behave as it does when managing grief. Emotions will feel raw and clarity will not be easily found. (Read Your Brain on Grief blog)

This decision will affect you, every person in your extended family and friends.

The loss and grief are blindsiding even if your marriage was not ideal.

Divorce is the death of dreams, a future, beliefs about yourself, and in the midst of all of this, children must have their needs met, jobs continue, and bills paid.

Anyone going down this path needs support and connection.

There is potential to grow exponentially and become the best version of yourself even in the midst of all of this.

Groups are an excellent place to start.

A Somatic therapist can help you not just tell your story but feel what you are going through so the healing can begin immediately.

All the pieces will not go back together.

It is best to put them back in a new order, so you don't end up here again.

I can help with that.

Please reach out and call if you need help with this part of your journey.

Free Somatic therapy consultations always available.