Grieving the Living

I have worked with clients for years and their grief. There are many types of grief lost relationships, family relationships that will never be different, sudden death, and watching someone slowly die.

I was naive enough to think I would never have to deal with a long, slow parental illness.

My family dies of heart attacks at all ages, young, middle, and old; it has always been a quick exit for both my mother's and father's sides.

This terminal cancer diagnosis has been my greatest challenge, and we are not at the end.

I am learning that I have given good advice to clients in the past and tapped into the skills I have taught them, but some days it isn't enough.

Grieving someone who is still alive is tricky business.

The best advice I have ever gotten is that: this is her life and death, and I have to stand by and allow all the choices to be hers.

My ego likes to fix and ignore, and I cannot do any of those things now.

I have to sit daily with all that is uncomfortable about this situation and all that is sad and move forward from that space.

Sitting in silence, stillness, and holding sadness is the practice and the dance of grief.

My Somatic work has allowed me to be available and present with all the yuck and push forward.

Everyone in this space knows how uncomfortable and grief-stricken it is.

Somatic psychotherapy is not a magical pill for this place, but the skills obtained while doing the work are undoubtedly helpful to continue on the path of moving forward.

If you need support during a similar time or have walked through it and need to recover, reach out.

Consultations are always free and available online and in person.