"My body hurts all the time, and I think I am going crazy," she said. "This is unlike me."

This quote is something I hear frequently.

The answer usually is that the client is holding too much-unexpressed grief in their nervous systems.

It is incredible how a good cry in a place of safety will help a person.

Most people do not even recognize that they are holding grief.

In our grief-phobic culture, most of us need to function and go to work quickly when a loss occurs.

There is no time to acknowledge you never had the mom you wanted, and now that you are a mom, all your loss wants to be expressed.

Maybe you lost a parent with whom you have no relationship, and you do not feel entitled to sorrow.

Possibly you lost the love of your life, and people around you want you to pull it together because it has been a couple of weeks.

Perhaps you put a pet down, and those around you do not understand the deep sense of loss that can bring.

At some point, most of the people who are close to us want our lives to keep going and to quit making them uncomfortable with our feelings of deep sadness.

Grief gets stuffed down, ignored, locked in a box, and put away with the hopes of not touching in on it again.

Greif is hard, debilitating, disorienting, and lasts a long time.

I have a place for you to unpack this layer and hold a space to feel into it safely.

The massive ocean that significant loss incurs is rugged but possible to rest in.

Skills and tricks are necessary to ride the waves that come and go.

Consultations are always free. I work in person and virtually.