I work with a lot of couples. The difference between Somatic therapy and traditional is time is taken to notice your body sensations.

As you tell your side of the couple's story, I may ask you to sit still for a moment and notice your body sensations.

After a few minutes, the person sensing sensation will understand what emotion they are holding and usually its origins.

For example, I had a woman who had significant abandonment issues but did not know all the places this impacted her life.

Her husband would do something, and the abandoned pathway would get triggered.

She would become emotional and overwhelmed without understanding why.

He would then give her space because that is how he handles powerful emotions.

His space would increase her dilemma, and then she would start feeling unloved, rejected, and the negative tapes her brain played would start.

This cycle eroded her trust in him to be able to support her.

This toxic dynamic continued for years, with her pulling more into herself and him believing he was doing what was necessary to help.

In therapy, she was able to name her abandonment and recognize its origins.

Her husband then understood that this was a place he needed to care for her.

We made a plan for them as a couple; when they noticed this trigger, he would move in closer.

The more they replayed this cycle at home, the more her wound healed until she was no longer overwhelmed by it.

The relationship now grew in more understanding and connection.

Now her husband is her support system, and she sees how he was trying to be all along.

As couples, we come into relationships with all our trauma and continue to work it out without knowing all we are holding.

Each person is doing what they feel most comfortable doing to help the other, and a lot of times, this doesn't match our partner's need.

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